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8 Mindsets Which Prevent Success And Happiness

8种心态阻止了成功和幸福

1.Superhero Syndrome

超级英雄综合症

In short, you are all about saving, fixing, renovating and achieving the ideal in everyone- including yourself. A large part of this is about trying to find meaning and satisfaction by creating and fixing problems that are within your control- or, at least, ones you have convinced yourself are within your control. What you are actually doing is avoiding real problems and real progress.

简而言之,你都是在帮助每个人拯救、修复、翻新和实现理想——包括你自己。很大一部分是试图通过创建和修复在你的控制内的问题找到价值感和满足感——或者,至少你相信自己是在你的控制之内。你做的是避免真正的问题和真正的进步。

2.Scrap-booking happiness

2、幸福剪贴薄

When you scrap-book, you take snippets and photos of your life and stick them in a big, empty book so you can look back on them and see what you’ve accomplished. You also tend to do that with your everyday life, as though you’re keeping score of successes. Continuously checking in with yourself to see if you are allowed to be happy is a sure way of convincing yourself that you’re not.

当你在制作剪贴薄的时候,把你生活的照片和一些片段贴在一个大的、空的书里,这样你可以回顾,看看你所取得的成就。你也可以为你的日常生活这样做,就像你是在为你的成功记分。不断检查自己是否快乐是一种相信自己不是的确定的方式。

3.You convince yourself that anything to do with pain is a roadblock

你要相信做起来很痛苦的事情都是障碍

Your gut is not exactly a psychic hotline, but it is the proverbial magic eight-ball built inside us all; unlike the eight-ball, however, a lot of us tend to ignore what it is telling us. A big issue comes from avoiding anything we associate with being ‘painful’ or ‘difficult’. Pain is not a pleasant thing, certainly, but that does not mean that it is always a roadblock to be avoided. Always going with what you think will make you happy is a good way to miss out on experiences that can lead you to success.

你的直觉不是一个心理热线,但它是众所周知的建在我们所有人旁边的神奇八号球;然而,不同于八号球,很多人倾向于忽视它告诉我们什么。一个大问题是避免任何与我们相关的“痛苦”或“困难”。当然,痛苦并不是一个令人愉快的事情,但这并不意味着它总是要避免的一个路障。总是用你认为会让你快乐的方式会让你错过可以带领你成功的经历。

4.The reductionist approach to life

简化生活方式

This is a mindset that many live with: “live small, stay in control”. Another way of thinking of this mindset is viewing it as the “settler” method: settling for a relationship where you are under-valued, settling for a job where you are treated poorly, and never taking a chance on your life or on new experiences. This mindset comes from self-esteem issues, typically, but it is also a way in which people stay in control of their lives. Sometimes, it is good thing to not be fully in control.

这是一种生活的态度:“生活很小,在控制之内”。思考这种心态的另一个思路是把它视为“定居者”的方法:解决你在哪里被低估的关系,解决你在哪里找工作被轻视,而且从不给你的生活或新体验一个机会。典型地,这种心态来源于自尊问题,但是也是一种人们控制自己的生活的方式。有时候不完全被控制也是一件好事。


5. Checking boxes

检查箱子


A lot of us know this one, and, unfortunately, succumb to it. This is the checklist that society often hands us with a footnote that reads “you will be happy when all these boxes are checked”. A home with a mortgage, two cars, a marriage, a family, and a career. Living a life that makes you happy outside of that checklist seems bizarre, even sinful to some – but it is your life. You’re the one who ultimately decides how your story is told.

很多人知道这个,不幸的是都屈服于它。这是社会经常用注脚来影响我们的清单,上面写着“当所有这些箱子被检查你会很高兴”。贷款的房屋, 两辆车,婚姻,家庭,和职业。生活让你拥有奇异的甚至罪恶的清单以外的快乐,——但这是你的生活。你是最终决定你的故事讲的是什么的人。


6. Never examining your opinions or beliefs again

不会再检查你的意见或信念

You’ve found a mindset and it’s going to stick for life, right? “This group is wrong”, “this political party is full of idiots”, “this is how I feel about: [insert everything that makes you angry]”. Alright, fair enough, but what happens when you won’t allow yourself to try out different perspectives? Your opinions and views stagnate, there is no growth and then every event that ever happens is viewed in terms of who is to blame- rather than as an opportunity to gain perspective and learn.

你发现了一种心态,它是需要坚持的,对吧?“这组是错的”,“这政党都是白痴”,“这就是我如何感受的:插入所有令你生气的东西”。好了,说得对,但当你不允许自己尝试不同的观点时会发生什么?你的意见和观点停滞不前,没有增长,那么发生的每一个事件都会变成是责怪谁是罪魁祸首,而不是作为一个机会来获得观点和学习。

7. Getting angry at qualities you see in others (that reflect your own)

看见别人的品质而生气(反映出你自己的品质)

Ever get really angry at a person for being a downer? Or a gossip? A mindset like this stops us from evaluating “Why am I so angry and hateful toward this person/this quality?” Self-examination can be a difficult and agonizing process, but it allows for growth and insight. This process allows us to work on that issue, instead of ignoring it.

会因为一个人变成令人沮丧的人还是爱说长道短的人而真正的生气?这样的心态阻止我们评估“为什么我如此愤怒和恨这个人/这个品质呢?“自我检查是一个困难和痛苦的过程,但它让我们成长和增长我们的洞察力。这个过程可以让我们解决问题,而不是忽视它。

8. Denying reality

8、否认现实

This one is one a lot of people are guilty of: ‘I can handle this by myself’, ‘I’m happy with things as they are’, ‘I’ve got to achieve more to be happy’, etc. This ties in with the reductionist approach and it is also counter-intuitive. What if you do handle everything yourself? You might feel proud but you might also experience being burnt out. If you achieve more, what happens when you find you aren’t really happy? Our search for happiness is often hindered by our inability to realize the truth. Being honest with yourself is another frightening prospect, but one that opens you up to happiness and success.

这是一个很多人都犯的错误:我可以自己处理这个问题,事实上我现在很开心”,“我要得到更多的快乐”,等等。这个与归结主义是一致的,它也是反直觉的。你是否可以自己处理任何事情?你可能感到自豪但也可能经历心力交瘁。如果你获得更多,当你发现你不是真的快乐的时候会发生什么?我们寻找幸福往往被阻止是因为我们无法意识到真相。对自己诚实是另一个可怕的前景,但它使你幸福和成功。


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